Why Joining the “And Club” Instead of Blindly Following Gurus
It’s shocking to realize how most people like to follow gurus. Self-help gurus, diet gurus, and spiritual gurus.
The “guru” in question may not actually be a person. It could be a doctrine. It could be a book. It could be a concept.
A friend of mine introduced me to a great concept I’d like to present to you. He told me about the “And” club and the “Or” Club.
Let’s look at those to see where you fit?
What is an “Or Club”
People part of the “Or Club” see everything as “either/or”. Either something is 100% correct, or it’s 100% wrong.
When a new program comes out, they jump heartily it in with a certain teenage-like energy, thinking that “it’s got to be the answer!”
I used to be a big fan of the “Or Club”.
When I became a vegetarian, it was clear that “meat is murder” and anyone eating it was wrong. It was either being a vegetarian OR being a meat eater.
When I became a raw-foodist, I bought the doctrine that “cooked food is poison”. And that you either had to “go raw” or “eat dead foods”.
When I would buy a self-help book or program, I would think this could be the answer I was looking for! And if it wasn’t, I trashed it completely and looked for something else.
That’s the typical behavior of those in the “Or Club”. Can you relate to that?
The immatures and idealists are always members of the “Or Club”.
*Introducing the “And Club”*
But another Club also exists. It’s the “And Club”.
The members of the “And Club” see things differently.
Some things can be good AND bad. They can have positive AND negative aspects. They can be useful AND harmful, depending on how they are used.
Let’s take a popular example. The movie “The Secret”.
When that movie (and book) came out, it created a fervor never seen before in the self-help field. Hoards of members of the “Or Club” swore by it.
You could hear them say:
“Have you seen the secret?”
“What are you manifesting, my friend?”
“You have to watch the secret! Everything is there!”
Study groups formed and people tried to understand how they could apply the “Secret” into their lives. Yet, many members of the “Or Club” couldn’t believe that even a program like the Secret could be flawed and had to be handled with care.
It wasn’t the miracle answer, as many have found.
It didn’t have to be another “guru”, or another doctrine to be followed blindly.
That’s what the members of the “And Club” understood.
That the Secret could have both good ideas AND bad ideas. That it could be useful AND misleading. That it could have good advice AND lots of BS.
*The Raw Food Diet*
The raw food diet is a big “fad”, some people say. Out of all of the diets out there, you won’t find another one with such an enthusiastic movement of followers.
And most of them are members of the “Or” club. It has to be true OR false. You have to eat raw OR cooked.
Let’s say that I have lots of experience with this. I’ve been involved in the raw food movement for over 10 years.
And over the years, I’ve seen:
– People lose their teeth because they followed blindly a raw food diet guru that told them to just eat fruit. - People getting into deep nutritional deficiencies because they were not consuming enough calories, thinking that “calories are not important” - People get into candida problems, and other blood-sugar issues because the were eating all the raw fats, avocados and nuts they could handle, thinking that “because it’s raw it’s okay”.
In all examples, people were always members of the “Or Club”.
It has to be *that* way, OR it’s no good.
But there’s another ways… there are positives and negatives to all things… so, are you still going to see everything as EITHER/OR, or will you join the “And Club” and follow your own guru?
Tips to Success:
1- Don’t Follow a Guru — The word “guru” comes from the Sanskrit word “Teacher”. If we understand the real meaning of the word “guru”, we would do our best to find the good teachers, but also understand that ultimately, the student must become the teacher.
2- Don’t Blindly Follow a Doctrine — When the Secret came out, lots of people followed it blindly, thinking it was going to totally revolutionize their life. They indeed gave up their own power looking for someone else to show them the way.
Truth is: no one understands you as well as you do. So, learn to see the good AND the bad things in any situation, and applies what you need to your own situation.
3- You have to create your own system — All gurus followed the same path. They followed many teachers, and eventually created their own system that they are now teacher to others. Unfortunately, many of them do it with the “OR” philosophy.
Eventually, you’ll have to create your own health system, your own fitness system, and your own self-help system. Which means… you’ll have to become your own guru.
In conclusion, the “Or Club” is immaturity.
The “And Club” gives you more freedom, more power and more possibilities.
Which one are you going to choose?